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I buried a good friend last week. He was the first close friend outside of my family that I have lost in my life. As I am now 35 years old, I realize that losses like this are part of life for all of us. I’ve seen too many great people’s lives cut short for one reason or another. When it happens to you, your perspective about life quickly changes.
During the funeral service, I was asked to come up to the altar and say a few words about my friend Robert, and even though I had no idea I was going to be speaking, I found it very easy to come up with the right word to describe his life, his selflessness and most of the lasting impact he left on me.
It was easy to see that the 300 plus people on the church also felt the same way. The simultaneous appearance of tears and smiles gave me great comfort in knowing that Robert made his compassionate presence known to all who came in contact with him. He always had words of wisdom, a helping hand or just an ear to lend when you needed a friend to listen.
His passing was sudden and unexpected. I had just talked to him the day before and he seemed as happy and jolly as ever. The next morning however, he never woke up.
While this loss has been painful, it has also been a tremendous reminder of how quickly life can change and how appreciative we need to be of those in our lives. The day I drove home from the funeral I began calling everyone of my friends that I had not talked to in a while, just to tell them that I missed them and how happy I am that they’ve been a part of my life. But to be honest, it shouldn’t take losing a friend to make those calls.
So often we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. We get so focused on our stresses, our goals, our dreams and our selfish desires that we forget all the great people that are right under our noses. If we simply lived our lives with the end in mind, I have no doubt most of us would do things a bit differently. We would appreciate a good sunset a bit more, we’d spend a few more hours laughing a talking with family and friends, we’d put more effort into helping those that need our love and support.
If you were to be honest with yourself at this very moment, what do you think your eulogy would sound like? What would those closest to you say about you?
You see, when you live your life in a way that represents a higher ideal, one that has greater meaning than just yourself, those who speak about you when you pass on won’t find it hard either. They’ll give you the proper send off that we all would love ot hear about ourselves. One that’s positive, inspiring and most of all selfless.
So, how is it that you want to be remembered? Once you know, then do yourself and favor and begin to live that way today.