Life Altering Decisions – Which Direction To Head?
Have you ever been truly stuck trying to make life altering decisions about an aspect of your life or career?
I suspect we’ll all face this dilemma many times in our lives. Through personal experience I’ve found a great way to make better life altering decisions when it comes to these situations in our lives.
I’ve tested this method in my business and my personal life to make some big decisions and the process is simple yet extremely powerful. The insights I have gained are nothing short of amazing.
Life Altering Decisions – The Thinking Process
If we make life altering decisions based on the thinking process alone, this leaves out some core aspects of our own lives. We think about a decision and mull it over again and again trying make the right call.
Often enough this type of thinking can be enough to get us through life, but sometimes we just get stuck, make a snap decision and go for it.
Guess what? There is another way…
Life Altering Decisions – Holistic Decision Making
Within each of us are thoughts that are often heard but not understood or listened to. These are unconscious aspects of our minds and they are extremely important and need to be heard.
They’re referred to as our “voices’. There are 5 voices:
The heart voice – This voice listens to your very core and can advise you the best decision to make based on everything it knows about your beliefs, values and principles
The spiritual voice – The spiritual voice will help you to make your life altering decisions based on what is right for the spiritual side of you. A decision that’s right for you as well as others who are close to you and the world around you.
The thinking voice – The thinking voice makes decisions at a conscious level, looking at what’s happening right now and how it’s going to affect your life.
The emotional voice – The emotional voice will help you to look at your decision-making based on your feelings.
The technical voice – The technical voice will look at the tools and skills you have just now and whether you have the ability to acquire new tools.
Life Altering Decisions – Talking to Your Five Voices
Grab a notepad and pen or use your computer to type. To execute this process you’ll take half an hour for yourself where you can be alone and without distraction. This will be worth the time and the effort, and the results you get at the end will hopefully raise insights that will help you reach more balanced life altering decisions.
Imagine yourself listening to the five voices we spoke about earlier. They’re all different versions of you. Imagine that each voice is represented by a different color. You ask each of them in turn about the life altering decisions you are trying to make, and you’ll get five replies from each of your voices.
As you are asking the question, simultaneously start the process of writing or typing what each voice tells you. I personally use a laptop and Word document to record the answers I receive as I can type fairly quickly. The IMPORTANT part of this process is to write/type as quickly as possible and not think about what you are writing, just keep going until you feel the voice has finished speaking.
Life Altering Decisions – An Example
I have been toying with the idea of moving to another city for quite some time now and I used this process not too long ago to make a huge decision in my life.
I was trying to decide whether or not to leave my hometown and here’s what my voices said:
Thinking voice – you should concentrate on your family and do what’s best for them just now. Are you being selfish by leaving home to follow your dreams? Yes you are. Are you truly doing it for your family? No, this is about you and your wants. Maybe it will work out if you decide to leave your, but make no mistake, this is about your needs and not the needs of your family. Make the decision based on the truth of what you truly want. If you truly want to leave then go for it, but you must pay the consequences of your actions if it all goes wrong. Do you have a contingency plan should it fail?
Heart voice – you really want to leave but you don’t know if you can really find the job that will make you happy. You have to believe that you have the capabilities. Working on your beliefs more will give you the courage of your convictions. I am worried about the impact it will have on my family and what their true feelings are about it. On the other hand this is truly the best time to leave, as you’ve never been closer to making a lot of money and living your dream. You have to put 100% of your time and energy into making this work. To be a leader in your field, it takes courage and it’s time to stand up and be bold.
Emotional voice – You can’t stay near home anymore and truly grow. It’s definitely time to leave. It seems to be sucking the life out of you and you have to try it to, at least, get it out of your system. I am concerned over the feelings of my family and will always worry about the big decisions in life, and that’s good as it creates a balance. Your family is strong and forgiving and can handle the emotional fallout of you leaving home again.
Spiritual voice – You have a destiny that you have not figured out yet, but it is definitely to make the world a better place somehow. You seem to be getting embroiled in the thought of making money over what’s right for others in the world. A balance can be sought and it’s this balance that you must pay close attention to when making your decision to leave. I suspect that in the long run the decision to leave will be the correct one, as it will lead you to your true path in life.
Technical voice – You have the capabilities and knowledge to make this plan work and there is no question that you can do it. What’s in question is your powers of concentration to actually make it work. You seem to have lots of different ideas about making money and what jobs will suit you best while helping others at the same time. However you have to focus on just a few of these ideas and see them through to the end. You need to focus and stick with them.
Once you get all this information down on paper it will allow you to weigh the positives and negatives of the perceived life altering decisions and whether or not it is a good idea. Try it and I assure you it will help give you some peace about what you’re thinking and which way you are leaning towards.
In the meantime I would love to know what you think about this process and if you try it come back and let me know how it helped you make life altering decisions. I suspect some of you will have some great stories and great insights. Please comment below and don’t forget to subscribe to my TV Hosts blog!