TV Hosts Questions
With the release of my new book “Host Your Own TV Show,” I’ve been contacted by many hosts in the past few weeks with all kinds of questions. I’ve honestly enjoyed the conversations and it really helps to understand the challenges that many of you in the industry are facing.
One of the questions that really struck a chord with me was from a single, 28 year-old woman who wants to be the host of her own cooking show. But her biggest challenge might surprise you. It wasn’t talent, funding, equipment or content.
She simply posed this question to me: “Am I weird for not wanting to worry about having kids and family right now to pursue my career?”
I can tell you that this feeling is not uncommon in the TV hosting industry. We are a unique breed of personalities. While many of your friends and family might be preaching to you that you need to settle down, find a good relationship and start a family, the truth is doing those things early on in your TV career could be detrimental.
The Harsh Realities of TV Hosting
I have to be straight with you. TV hosting is not the career best suited for relationships, but in order to make them work and flourish, you have to either find someone who is willing to travel the challenging journey with you, or wait till you have ascended to the place you want to be before taking on all the other responsibilities associated with a relationship and family.
That might sound harsh, but let me give you the reality of a TV Hosts life over the first 5 to 10 years.
- You are driven
- You love an audience
- You are confident
- You want nothing less than to be on national television in some capacity doing what you love and that’s entertaining others
- You won’t let anything or anyone stand in the way of you achieving your dreams.
At first glance someone might think it’s great to be hitched to a big driven personality like that, but if you look at it from the other persons point of view, where does that leave time and energy for them? I can say all this because it has not only been my experience but also that of hundreds of others that I have met along the way in the industry.
If you can find someone who will be with you through thick and thin and is willing to support your journey 100%, first of all let me say congratulations because those types of people don’t come along very often. However, if that’s not the case, my advice is to go ahead and date, but wait for the serious stuff until you can give the other person the time and energy they deserve.
Why You’re On The Right Path
Now before you go and get all depressed about why you chose this career, let me also tell you the upside to this story. While all of your friends and family members are settling down and having kids etc., what they don’t see, that you do, is the fact that sometime in their 40’s or 50’s when the kids move out and they are left with their spouse and a “normal” job, their going to wonder what happened? This is what’s typically known as a “mid-life crisis.”
You on the other hand, are building an incredible career and foundation that will last a lifetime. Not only will you be happier and more fulfilled, but you’ll be able to financially support your family, hobbies and enjoy your chosen profession.
Being able to speak to large audiences and entertain others is a quality that few possess, and those of us with the confidence and ability to do it will be well served with opportunities as long as we want them.
Don’t Bow Out, Keep Going!
So, if you are one of those people asking yourself if you are weird or crazy for doing this whole “TV Hosting” gig, think again. You are doing the hard work and preparation now that will create an incredible second half of life for you, while others will be coming to you then asking “How do I get what you have?
All you’ll be able to say is, “Remember when you told me I was stupid for not settling down and having kids early on, well this is the result of my efforts back then and it feels amazing.”